Hey there,
I hope your week’s been a good one – or at least had a moment or two of calm in amongst the usual chaos.
The other day, I got a text message from my friend Kirsty Hulse that reminded me of something I often talk about with clients, and I thought it was worth sharing here too.
A few years ago, Kirsty and I made a last-minute decision to go to an event one evening. We thought it would be light, thought-provoking entertainment – but it ended up being something far more personal. The speaker talked openly about their experience of sobriety, and it landed in a way I wasn’t expecting.
At the time, I’d been quietly questioning my own drinking. The same conversations on repeat. The gradually increasing measures (particularly during lockdown). And that familiar feeling of waking up the next day, knowing I didn’t feel good about the choices I was making.
I hadn’t expected to feel so seen in that room, but I did.
So much so that after the event, Kirsty and I went out for a drink to process it all. The irony wasn’t lost on either of us.
A few nights later, a friend came over to dye my hair. What started as one glass of wine turned into two bottles. And the next morning, there I was again – head in hands, thinking: not again.
But this time, something shifted.
A quiet but clear thought followed: If they can change, then so can I.
That moment became a turning point.
Since then, I’ve stopped drinking – but it’s been about more than alcohol. That one decision had a ripple effect across my whole life. I changed how I worked, restructured the business, moved house, and started training as a psychotherapist.
It’s not been about becoming someone new – but rather, coming back to who I am, and learning to like that person a whole lot more.
I’m sharing this now because it’s a reminder I often give clients, especially when they feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like things haven’t gone to plan.
We can’t always predict what’s coming next – but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
Often, it’s the unexpected moments that lead to real clarity or change. What feels like a setback in the moment might be exactly what creates space for something better.
So if you’re in the middle of uncertainty, or something’s shifted and you’re not sure what to do next, pause, take a breath, and keep going.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. Just stay open to the possibility that what comes next might be better than you imagined.
Have a great week!
Cate x
Hey there,
I hope your week’s been a good one – or at least had a moment or two of calm in amongst the usual chaos.
The other day, I got a text message from my friend Kirsty Hulse that reminded me of something I often talk about with clients, and I thought it was worth sharing here too.
A few years ago, Kirsty and I made a last-minute decision to go to an event one evening. We thought it would be light, thought-provoking entertainment – but it ended up being something far more personal. The speaker talked openly about their experience of sobriety, and it landed in a way I wasn’t expecting.
At the time, I’d been quietly questioning my own drinking. The same conversations on repeat. The gradually increasing measures (particularly during lockdown). And that familiar feeling of waking up the next day, knowing I didn’t feel good about the choices I was making.
I hadn’t expected to feel so seen in that room, but I did.
So much so that after the event, Kirsty and I went out for a drink to process it all. The irony wasn’t lost on either of us.
A few nights later, a friend came over to dye my hair. What started as one glass of wine turned into two bottles. And the next morning, there I was again – head in hands, thinking: not again.
But this time, something shifted.
A quiet but clear thought followed: If they can change, then so can I.
That moment became a turning point.
Since then, I’ve stopped drinking – but it’s been about more than alcohol. That one decision had a ripple effect across my whole life. I changed how I worked, restructured the business, moved house, and started training as a psychotherapist.
It’s not been about becoming someone new – but rather, coming back to who I am, and learning to like that person a whole lot more.
I’m sharing this now because it’s a reminder I often give clients, especially when they feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like things haven’t gone to plan.
We can’t always predict what’s coming next – but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
Often, it’s the unexpected moments that lead to real clarity or change. What feels like a setback in the moment might be exactly what creates space for something better.
So if you’re in the middle of uncertainty, or something’s shifted and you’re not sure what to do next, pause, take a breath, and keep going.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. Just stay open to the possibility that what comes next might be better than you imagined.
Have a great week!
Cate x
