Hey,
Hope you're doing really well.
I've been thinking a lot about resilience this week. Mainly because I delivered a session on it for one of our wonderful clients. I think it's fair to say that it's a hot topic for businesses at the moment.
Here's what struck me most: we so often misunderstand resilience. We imagine it's about grit or toughness or pushing through no matter what. But every time I talk about it, every time I watch people reflect on it, I'm reminded that resilience is actually found in the smallest, quietest moments.
It's the pause before we react. The breath before we reply. The story we choose to tell ourselves. These tiny choices are where our power sits.
They're the difference between spiralling and steadying ourselves. Between feeling overwhelmed and feeling grounded enough to take the next step.
And here's what I've been sitting with even more this week: resilience isn't just about getting through things. It's about how we get to live.
When we're constantly in fear or survival mode, white-knuckling our way through, ticking boxes, pushing through exhaustion, we miss the joy and the actual living bit.
For me, I'm starting to realise that real resilience is about creating space for a more joyful life. Not because things aren't hard, but because we're not adding to the hardship with the stories we tell ourselves about it.
You get to choose your pace, your boundaries, and the meaning you give things.
If you're looking for somewhere to start, here are three small things that might help:
1. Pause before you react. When you feel that familiar tightening, the overwhelm, the frustration, the "I can't cope", just pause. One breath. That's where your power lives.
2. Ask yourself what you actually need. Not what you think you should be doing. Not what everyone else expects. What do you need right now? Rest? A boundary? Permission to do less?
3. Choose the story carefully. When things feel hard, notice the narrative running in your head. Is it "I'm failing" or "I'm doing my best in a demanding season"? The story you tell yourself shapes everything.
Resilience isn't about being unshakeable. It's about noticing when you're shaken and choosing how you move forward from there, with a little more softness, clarity and honesty with yourself.
Sending you all the love over the coming week.
Cate x
Hey,
Hope you're doing really well.
I've been thinking a lot about resilience this week. Mainly because I delivered a session on it for one of our wonderful clients. I think it's fair to say that it's a hot topic for businesses at the moment.
Here's what struck me most: we so often misunderstand resilience. We imagine it's about grit or toughness or pushing through no matter what. But every time I talk about it, every time I watch people reflect on it, I'm reminded that resilience is actually found in the smallest, quietest moments.
It's the pause before we react. The breath before we reply. The story we choose to tell ourselves. These tiny choices are where our power sits.
They're the difference between spiralling and steadying ourselves. Between feeling overwhelmed and feeling grounded enough to take the next step.
And here's what I've been sitting with even more this week: resilience isn't just about getting through things. It's about how we get to live.
When we're constantly in fear or survival mode, white-knuckling our way through, ticking boxes, pushing through exhaustion, we miss the joy and the actual living bit.
For me, I'm starting to realise that real resilience is about creating space for a more joyful life. Not because things aren't hard, but because we're not adding to the hardship with the stories we tell ourselves about it.
You get to choose your pace, your boundaries, and the meaning you give things.
If you're looking for somewhere to start, here are three small things that might help:
1. Pause before you react. When you feel that familiar tightening, the overwhelm, the frustration, the "I can't cope", just pause. One breath. That's where your power lives.
2. Ask yourself what you actually need. Not what you think you should be doing. Not what everyone else expects. What do you need right now? Rest? A boundary? Permission to do less?
3. Choose the story carefully. When things feel hard, notice the narrative running in your head. Is it "I'm failing" or "I'm doing my best in a demanding season"? The story you tell yourself shapes everything.
Resilience isn't about being unshakeable. It's about noticing when you're shaken and choosing how you move forward from there, with a little more softness, clarity and honesty with yourself.
Sending you all the love over the coming week.
Cate x
